Homeschool Socialization Fears

Courageous Homeschooling e-course lesson fourteen

Homeschool socialization fears have to top of the list when it comes to what parents worry about.

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What if my child doesn't make friends?

I also know that all the Moms I meet at homeschool groups are forever worrying about whether their daughter is friends with someone else's daughter.

My free Courageous Homeschooling e-course has been teaching you the techniques to overcome your fears.

And socialization is one of the areas we need to look at.

Because to be honest I've seen too many friends waste their lives worrying about it.

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The way we're going to handle it is by using one of the tools we've already learned.

It's the shocking words:

It doesn't matter.

It doesn't matter if your child doesn't make friends with Susie.

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Now to get to that wonderful place of peace and calm those three words bring you need to follow me on a journey.

I was homeschooled as a child. None of my Inspector's would have even thought of asking if I had friends or not.

It simply wasn't an issue that was worth considering.

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In the meantime, we've already learned something.

The perils of homeschooling and socialisation is a modern pre-occupation.

That puts things in perspective because in a few years you can be sure something else will be top of the agenda!

Socialization is simply not the dragon everyone thinks it is.

But let's start by going back to what Deena's relative wrote on her facebook wall:

School helps a child build their social skills and that is a very important part of their education. You have to be able to communicate with your peers as well as those in charge to get ahead in life.”

She's laid out the conventional wisdom pretty neatly.

So let's take action to lay your homeschool socialization fears to rest.

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You'll feel a lot better when you've read the research which proves:

  1. Homeschooling your child will enable them to relate comfortably not just to children in their own peer group but people of all ages.
  2. How much damage school socialization has done to many kids.

Action Plan

I've got pages on my site crammed with all the ammunition you need:

That should help you relax and give you all the arguments you need to fight back.

The figures speak for themselves.

There's no reason to suppose you child will be any different from all the other homeschooled kids.

They'll be fine.

"The socialising side of homeschooling is one I always get struck with and I really think it's ridiculous....

Since I have taken my son out of school he actually has a better social life and he mixes with children of all ages, he is so much happier, more patient and helpful to younger children, his confidence has blossomed and our bond has strengthened.

I am counting down the weeks until my other children will be finishing school and joining the home school journey.

It's posts like this and groups like Sonya's that make me feel excited about it not nervous and reaffirms it's the right choice for us. :)"

~ Helena

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You'll do all the things every homeschooling Mom and Dad does – take your kids to homeschool groups, try classes, sports clubs, lessons, courses, adventure holidays - your only limit is your child's interests and possibly your wallet!

But that doesn't get rid of the pain over Susie.

Fear Of Rejection

In fact you may find it taps into your own fear of rejection you had as a child.

To get rid of those fears you're going to have to trust me.

I'm fed up with the success of my children’s entire homeschool life being judged by how many Birthday parties they've been to.

The pressure to have lots of friends ignores common sense. Some people are naturally more gregarious and others prefer to spend more time on their own.

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I simply don't see the number of friends you have as the litmus test of a happy, fulfilled, individual.

It could just be that your child, like many adults, prefers to have a few close friends.

That's normal too.

If they make a friend out of Susie, great.

If not, who cares? They'll find someone else, sometime and somewhere.

It will all work out in the end.

They'll handle it.

Hi, just want to say the email on Socialization Fears rings true.

When I first started out trying to figure out how to homeschool everyone...said...she wouldn't have friends or she'll have trouble socializing...

I am personally an introvert and largely a loner. I don't have friends by the hoards but I do make friends. And these friends I made aren't your Hi and bye friends.

I concluded going to school doesn't help one makes friends. Or learn to socialize any better than a child who is homeschooled.

My eldest...has grown to be a very sociable young lady. Confident, loving and engages well in conversations with people from across all ages.

So thanks Sonya Chappell for the email on this topic. It's a Thursday here and this article or words of wisdom definitely made it a terrific one today.

~ J.

Once you look at your homeschool socialization fears like that, your worries will begin to calm and you'll realize all the wonderful opportunities homeschooling brings.

It's all about TRUSTING your child, which is what we're going to look at in the next lesson of my free Courageous Homeschooling e-course.

Best wishes


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