Homeschool socialization fears have to top of the list when it comes to what parents worry about.
What if my child doesn't make friends?
I also know that all the Moms I meet at homeschool groups are forever worrying about whether their daughter is friends with someone else's daughter.
My free Courageous Homeschooling e-course has been teaching you the techniques to overcome your fears.
And socialization is one of the areas we need to look at.
Because to be honest I've seen too many friends waste their lives worrying about it.
The way we're going to handle it is by using one of the tools we've already learned.
It's the shocking words:
It doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter if your child doesn't make friends with Susie.
Now to get to that wonderful place of peace and calm those three words bring you need to follow me on a journey.
I was homeschooled as a child. None of my Inspector's would have even thought of asking if I had friends or not.
It simply wasn't an issue that was worth considering.
You can find out more about what it was like being homeschooled and the lessons we can learn from how my parents chose to do it by signing up to my free second generation homeschooling serial.
In the meantime, we've already learned something.
The perils of homeschooling and socialisation is a modern pre-occupation.
That puts things in perspective because in a few years you can be sure something else will be top of the agenda!
Socialization is simply not the dragon everyone thinks it is.
But let's start by going back to what Deena's relative wrote on her facebook wall:
“School helps a child build their social skills and that is a very important part of their education. You have to be able to communicate with your peers as well as those in charge to get ahead in life.”
She's laid out the conventional wisdom pretty neatly.
So let's take action to lay your homeschool socialization fears to rest.
You'll feel a lot better when you've read the research which proves:
I've got pages on my site crammed with all the ammunition you need:
That should help you relax and give you all the arguments you need to fight back.
The figures speak for themselves.
There's no reason to suppose you child will be any different from all the other homeschooled kids.
They'll be fine.
do all the things every homeschooling Mom and Dad does – take your kids
to homeschool groups, try classes, sports clubs, lessons, courses,
adventure holidays - your only limit is your child's interests and
possibly your wallet!
But that doesn't get rid of the pain over Susie.
In fact you may find it taps into your own fear of rejection you had as a child.
To get rid of those fears you're going to have to trust me.
I'm fed up with the success of my children’s entire homeschool life being judged by how many Birthday parties they've been to.
The pressure to have lots of friends ignores common sense. Some people are naturally more gregarious and others prefer to spend more time on their own.
I simply don't see the number of friends you have as the litmus test of a happy, fulfilled, individual.
It could just be that your child, like many adults, prefers to have a few close friends.
That's normal too.
If they make a friend out of Susie, great.
If not, who cares? They'll find someone else, sometime and somewhere.
It will all work out in the end.
They'll handle it.
Once you look at your homeschool socialization fears like that, your worries will begin to calm and you'll realize all the wonderful opportunities homeschooling brings.
It's all about TRUSTING your child, which is what we're going to look at in the next lesson of my free Courageous Homeschooling e-course.
Journaling is a proven method to help think things through and clarify your thoughts.
This guided journal will prompt you to really dig deep and become more courageous in your approach.
P.S. My new book Homeschool Secrets of Success will help you if your are frustrated because things don't seem to be working out. Or you are just starting homeschool and want to know how to 'get it right.'
› Courageous E-Course Lesson 14