Homeschooling Socialization:
A Much Happier Way To Be

We've seen how homeschooling socialization offers lots of ways for your child to make friends with children their own age. 

But there's even more to celebrate!

socialization quote

Homeschooling socialization actually gives your child a much more positive way of learning the social skills they'll need as an adult.

Your own memories of school will be different.

But you'll recognize the common factor – peer pressure and the need to conform.

What I love about homeschooling and socialization is that it gives your child the chance to choose the friends they want.

Exactly like an adult does.

They have plenty of contact with their peers.  But they aren’t obliged to co-exist with the same relatively small number of children day-in, day-out.

Mary Kay Clark quote about socialization

"I have not been to school in years myself and I still have and make friends."

~ Karalu, homeschool-activities Facebook fan

Homeschool also has many great advantages, because it gives your child much more time to get to know and spend time with the people who are closest to them – their relatives.


Instead of being out at school all day when the grand-parents come round, my children have been listening to what it was like being bombed in the War.

It would have been much harder to find those special times if they'd been out at school.

The ability to relate to people of all generations is something schoolchildren don't always get much opportunity to practise.

They also haven't that much time to help out feeding the neighbor's cat.

In fact, Dr Alan Thomas' research into homeschooling and socialization reveals that homeschool children tend to be exceptionally mature and much more confident in their dealings with adults.

You'll see clear cut information which backs his findings in our page on home schooling statistics.


Part of the reason school often fails is linked to the relationship school children develop with the significant other adults they meet on a daily basis – teachers.

Teachers set out deliberately to make themselves stand apart from their pupils.

They use their authority to keep order and have very limited one-to-one time with individual pupils.

If you want an example of a rather different relationship, you should hear William and Catherine discussing with me when they want to do their Math or whose turn it is to do the washing up!

Homeschooling And Socialization

Finally, I want to say something which most homeschool parents would disagree with, never mind you.

We've proved that there are lots of homeschooling socialization opportunities available to you, and all the homeschool families I know make full use of them.

But I'm fed up with the success of my children’s entire homeschool life being judged by how many Birthday parties they've been to.

The pressure to have lots of friends ignores common sense. Some people are naturally more gregarious and others prefer to spend more time on their own.

John Holt quote

If you homeschool and your child is a bit shy, I wouldn't necessarily see that as a homeschooling socialization 'problem.'

I certainly wouldn't force your child to go to groups if they don't want to.

Not only is that potentially counter-productive, but also homeschool gives you the chance to practise the softly-softly approach so your child has time to develop the confidence they need, which is one of the benefits of a flexible homeschooling  schedule.

girl and boy

It's worth remembering that the homeschooling and socialization issue is very much a product of our time.

When I was a homeschool child some years ago, no one, including my Inspectors, would ever have thought of asking how many friends came round.

You can see more about why my parents decided to become homeschool pioneers and put your decision to homeschool in perspective in my Free Guide to Starting Homeschooling.

You'll find that back then 'socialization' wasn't considered anything that a parent need worry about.

Dr Raymond Moore quote

I understand the socialization concern, but I think it's grown out of all proportion and takes no account of basic human nature.

litmus test

I simply don't see the number of friends you have as the litmus test of a happy, fulfilled, individual.

It could just be that your child, like many adults, prefers to have a few close friends.

That's normal too.

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Homeschooling socialization has many positive benefits with the potential for real friends of all ages and the time for your children to gain the social confidence they need.

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