Sometimes homeschooling happiness can seem hard to achieve. It's easy to get bogged down in fears and doubts. So let's learn how to celebrate everything you are achieving.
By now my Courageous Homeschooling e-course has looked at all sorts of ways to make our homeschooling better for all of us.
But perhaps the biggest is still to come.
We have to say: “YES!”
We have to accept that what is happening is our responsibility.
My mentor Susan Jeffers, best-selling author of Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway, is further along this path than I am.
She wants us to relax and accept everything that life hands to us.
She wants us to see value from anything that happens to you or your children.
We haven't the time here to explore this wider vision on our course.
But I do think in a smaller way we can adopt this attitude to see that it is our responsibility to see all the positives we can in homeschooling - even if it doesn't seem that way at the time!I am certain that is the way to homeschooling happiness.
A lot of the fear around homeschooling is based on uncertainty – will everything work out alright?
What's more, we always look for the worst outcome.
My child will never:
get their exams
have a proper career
– and all because I chose to homeschool...
My e-course has shown you that these feelings are all based on fear.
We need to turn that round, take responsibility, and see all the positives in any situation.
I can manage that best when it comes to specific homeschooling problems.
If the end goal of homeschooling is to make your child happy and fulfilled,
who says they wouldn't be better off NOT going to college and training
instead for something they've always loved – like being a blacksmith?
And Susan does have a specific example to saying YES which becomes increasingly relevant as we get further down the homeschooling road:
What to do when your kids leave home and homeschooling comes to an end?
Or do you:
1. Accept the wonderful opportunity you've had to spend so much time with your children and that now it is time for them to go.
You have a new life ahead of you – and it is one that is full of possibilities!
Clearly, saying YES! is the right answer.
Susan has this to say:
“In the final analysis, it can be said that your ability to cope effectively with the world around you corresponds to your ability to YES to your universe, including the pain." ~ Susan Jeffers, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway
That's pretty profound stuff, and I can't say I've really got there yet.
But I have got here.
And I would like you to get here too!
I'm hoping that this course has shown you enough to make you believe that there really is nothing to fear from your decision to homeschool.
The road to homeschooling happiness is to realize:
Whatever happens, everything will work out fine in the end.
Today is about re-affirming your decision to homeschool and saying YES!
Pick out some affirmations which prove you are on your path.
Tell yourself how wonderfully you are doing.
This wonderful poster will make your home feel happy, joyful and remind you why homeschooling is the best choice you ever made.
And if you are further along the journey than I am, here is a lovely affirmation from Susan you might like to add to your list:
I am finding value in everything that happens to me.
P.S. Tomorrow is the last lesson of the course where we celebrate all we have achieved.
You can get this beautiful Journal to go with the course which gives you:
The Courageous Homeschooling Journal is a guided journal to give you the space to think about - and write down - what you really want from homeschooling.
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